Sunday, August 17, 2008

Be Careful What You Say To Your Kids

Okay you have read before about Jack and his attitude. He is very loving. We have noticed however there is another side to Jack. One that can be demanding, rude, and hateful. We have noticed this attitude change when he gets hungry. He can be rude right before dinner or lunch but after he eats he is peaches and cream.

Lately, we have noticed that when Jack comes back from a few of his friends houses he is very aggressive toward Caroline and he talks back to his mother and me. This often results is consequences for him that he does not like and unwanted or needed stress to his mother and me. The only thing we can think of is we know he probably plays video games over at one boy's house that we wished he would not. They are rated M or T for blood and gore. We need to talk to his parents about not letting Jack play those types of games. The other house the boy's are twins. We figure the twins act this way toward their parents because they are often grounded for "yelling at mommy" as they put it.

None of the boys are disrespectful when they are in our home. Quite the opposite. They are all little charmers. They love Tracey's cooking so they often hang around and eat dinner with us. Today we told Jack that the boys can come over to our home but Jack will not be going into their homes for a while.

I don't know if you remember from a past blog but two of the boys we have caught hanging out in Jacks room just looking around while Jack is in another room getting a drink. It was like they were casing out the joint or something. We have since caught them with some of Jack's things in their pockets. We talked to Jack about today and that he needed to make sure his things were put away. We are currently "missing" one of Jack's Nintendo DS machines. Another boy we talked to Jack about we have seen him act very spoiled as he is an only child. Well Tracey told Jack that we did not like him hanging out to much with this child because then Jack acts like a spoiled brat.

Fast forward to this afternoon. All the boys come over and all is well. They walk down the hall and Jack shuts his door and locks it as they pass by. One of the boys asks Jack what he was doing.

Jack says, My MOM told me you have been stealing from me and I am keeping my stuff safe.

Kids reaction....WWWWHHHHAAATTTTTTT??????

Then a few minutes later the little boy who can be "spoiled" starts to whine about something and Caroline says..."My mom thinks you are a spoiled little brat."

Be careful what you say...because kids will tell on you.

7 comments:

The MAN Fan Club said...

So true. I was thinking the other day when my daughter was playing at the pastor's house with her friend if she could be quizzed about her daddy. He plays POKER and drinks BEER? WHAT!??

You also have to behave around them.

JDHTEACH said...

Of course the up side to this is maybe the kid will tell his parents what Tracey thinks and they will keep their kid home.

Anonymous said...

That stinks when you have to start putting a lo-jack on the kids stuff.

JDHTEACH said...

This afternoon I watched the boys play outside to see if I could support our theory about Jacks attitude and aggression. Their were 5 boys playing a made up game. All of the sudden the twin brothers started yelling at one another and they took each other to the ground. No punches mind you...more like WWF. Then when Jack gets home he gets mad at us because we make him wash up for dinner. Direct connection.

We talked to him about it again and he is aware of the connection. He is smart about it. He came to his own conclusion that maybe he should not spend so much time with them.

Becca in Texas said...

I hung around twins a lot in high school and they were very condescending to one another, but not all that much to other people. My mom hated when I went out with them because she said I came home with the worst attitude. I can see it now looking back, but then I did not believe her.

CaraSaraTX said...

that is funny about the lo-jack thing. but seriously, an option. these kids are a nightmare. you all are doing so great just trying to contain it!

JDHTEACH said...

Interesting perspective becca. I don't know what it is. We are definately managing our Jack's exposure to the boys. He has been awesome this week. We have been keeping him busy during the evenings and during the day he has been going to our church since Tracey started back to work this week.